Your Story Is Your Own
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise
One of the most difficult parts of this Pride is this idea that if you’re queer, you have to come out. Or that you have a certain level of queerness that you need to perform and explain. And I think at one point, when I first came out, I thought this was true, because how else do you find your fellow queers?
1. Queer folks find each other with or without a big coming out — truly.
2. You don’t actually owe anyone your queerness. Because sometimes it’s not safe and sometimes it’s just not anyone’s business but those you are close to.
Especially at the expense of forcing people to come out before they are ready?
No. It’s so harmful and ends up hurting a lot of people. Not to mention, when it comes to this particular era of social media and putting everything in the public, we are already so in the spotlight sometimes and many we just want something that is private, that is ours for a while.
And that’s okay.
💕💕💕 so true