Thinking about the difference between romantic friendships and platonic relationships today and romantic partnering and platonic partnering and queer relationships in generally.
Because I genuinely do not know where the difference is for me. It overlaps so much and I get frustrated with trying to label my relationships. I just know that I love so many people and try to make sure that is known.
I think that for me a friendship can turn to romantic friendship because I fully believe that dating your friends to get to know them is just as valid as dating a partner. And then, these romantic friendships can either turn into a romantic partnership OR a platonic relationship. It just depends on the person.
Like I fully develop several crushes on several people when I meet them, when we click, when we have similar interests, when there is a physical attraction or aesthetic attraction. But for so long, I thought a crush meant that it had to turn romantic, which turned into dating, which turned into partnering. (Not to mention a physical or sexual component, which for my asexual self is all kinds of confusing and frustrating at times.)
But my gods, that does not work for me.
I also loathe the question, “are you seeing in anyone” or “are you in a relationship” because YEAH, several, actually. But what they really mean is “are you in a monogamous sexual romantic partnership” and it’s so tiring.
Because no.
BUT I have so many more interesting relationships I would love to talk about.
This message brought to you by my current queer journey of figuring out the spectrum of Romance.
This! Thanks for putting it into words 💖
ALL OF THIS ✨🔥✨ more and more I’m coming to acknowledge that the lines between my relationships are “blurry” in specific ways and I’m trying to honor that shit. And also how much more interested I am in deeper relationships and the many forms that can take.